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Monday, December 21, 2009

Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha!

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We need to laugh more. Especially those of us who are in a relationship. Laughing with your partner is more powerful than laughing alone. Shared laughter is one of the most effective tools for keeping relationships fresh and exciting.

Laugh about anything or nothing for 30 seconds each day. If you must, force yourself. Exaggerate and play with the issues that annoy you most. Go to a comedy club. Do something silly together. A playful approach to everyday things in your relationship is a key factor in keeping it healthy.

Drive yourself happy. Don’t be a sourpuss. It doesn’t take long for a put-on outburst of laughter to become the real thing. Bust out with the giggles. Wear a smile. It puts you closer to laughing. Laughter puts you intensely in the moment.

Laughing and recalling funny things in your relationship keeps the spark alive in your relationship. Humor is infectious. Surround yourself with reminders to lighten up. Visit a novelty shop and buy a laughing box.

When you share a laugh with your loved one, it can create a buffer in the relationship so that when arguments or misunderstandings arise, it does not have any negative effect on the relationship. Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain, and conflict. Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. It creates a very special a connection between the two of you.

Redevelop your sense of humor. Demonstrate an abundance of smiles for your partner. It’s contagious. Laughter connects us with others. Be more spontaneous. Humor gets you out of your head and away from your troubles.

If you think you have nothing to laugh about. . . you’re right. Find something to laugh about. Approach life in a more mirthful way and you’ll find you’re less stressed about negative events, and you’ll achieve the health benefits of laughter.

Have you experienced the cleansed feeling after a good laugh? Laughter provides a physical and emotional release. Watch funny TV shows or a funny movie together.

What you think about and speak about, you bring about. Force yourself to look at the bright side of things for a change. By making a conscious effort to incorporate more humor and play into your daily interactions you can improve the quality of your love relationship.

“There is no investment you can make which will pay you so well as the effort to scatter sunshine and good cheer through your establishment (or relationship).” – Orison Swett Marden

Laughter relaxes the whole body. A good, hearty laugh relieves physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after.

Laughter is a great thing. Try it. You and your partner stand in front of a mirror. Force a fake laugh for at least 30 seconds. Or… fake a Santa Claus, “Ho, ho, ho!” See what happens!

After you stop laughing, pause and feel the feelings you have inside. Pay attention to the feelings you have for your partner. Enjoy them a moment and then share some of these feelings with one another. Now it’s time for a warm, cuddly hug.


Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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