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Sunday, December 13, 2009

Begin Again

Filed under: Relationships — Larry James @ 8:00 am
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Start fresh.

Why is it that when you were first together, everything was great? Each of you were doing the right things. The relationship was on fire! The reasons don’t really matter. What matters is that you acknowledge that you both stopped doing the things that brought you together in the first place.

Re-acquaint yourselves. Get to know each other again. Begin to woo each other like you used to do. Plan a “date” night together. Take a moment right now and recollect some of those special moments. Think about it.

It’s never too late to recreate the good times. You may have a fresh start on your relationship any moment you choose.

The psychological importance of working through painful resentments must not be underestimated. Break old patterns and possibility is born. Not to release and rise above suppressed feelings of hurt and anger is to remain imprisoned by them.

Forgive yourself for getting off track. It will release you from the negative feelings that keep you and the relationship stuck. Refuse to hold on to what may seem unforgivable. It takes no strength to let go, only courage.

Read, “Forgiveness: What’s it For?”

Negotiate some new agreements. It’s time to move forward. It is okay to begin again!

Never stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place.

Bonus Link: “Kidding Around With Romance.”

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” There are more than 750 pages of great relationship information on Larry’s Website. Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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1 Comment »

  1. I think that relationships change from dating to marriage. During the dating phase, we tell our partners that we are attracted to him/her, that we want to date him/her exclusively, and that we wish to spend our life with our partner. After marriage, we must negotiate what type of marriage we want. This leads to inevitable differences. Couples often lack the skills necessary to negotiate these differences. Anger and resentment are simply a sign of this skill deficit. The good news is that couples can learn to manage their differences in a caring way.

    Comment by Lee Horton — Thursday, December 17, 2009 @ 2:53 am | Reply

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