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Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Exercise Your Power of Choice

Filed under: Relationships — Larry James @ 8:00 am
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Choice is your greatest gift.

Do your best not to repeat the bad choices you have made in your relationship that have brought you to this point in time. Think before you act. This may take some effort because up until now, your focus has most likely been on seeing your partner in a negative light.

You get what you focus on. That hasn’t worked. It’s time to change that.

Choice demands personal inquiry. It requires self-discovery.

The decision process – that time when you really take an honest look at how things might be if you would only do something different – often is that time when you analyze things to death. You become so confused you want to give up in despair.

Listen to your heart. It will tell you, “Never. Never give up!” It also knows “what to do.” Listen to it.

When we change. . . we give permission to others around us to change. It is not possible to change others. To others, the empowerment for change is often unspoken; it is communicated in the changes they consciously or unconsciously notice in us.

Looking for and seeing the good in your partner has its own way of encouraging better choices.

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” There are more than 750 pages of great relationship information on Larry’s Website. Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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1 Comment »

  1. […] often cannot see that we have choice. No matter what happens we always have choice. Think before choice. Not making a choice is a […]

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