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Saturday, July 25, 2009

1st 100 Tweets from Larry James’ Relationship Twitter!

I have posted the 1st 100 Tweets on my “Relationship Twitter” and thought you might enjoy reading all of them 140 characters at a time. All are adapted from my book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

LoveNotes for Lovers is a collection of meditations, affirmations and reflections on love. A valued relationship is something you work on all the time, not only when its broken and needs to be fixed. LoveNotes for Lovers assists in that process.

twitterFollowMElovenotesEvery LoveNote is but one more piece of the relationship puzzle. The design of LoveNotes for Lovers is to help people fit the pieces of the relationship puzzle together in a healthy way. Each one is a mini-lesson in love.

You will also see an occasional link that references an article I have written about that key word. Each link opens in a new window so you won’t lose your place.

You are welcome to use these “LoveNotes” as quotes provided you credit the author as per below:

LoveNote. . . Good fortune favors those who actively work together to create a sense of shared responsibility for the success of their relationship. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

You can read the 2nd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/11/07/2nd-100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 3rd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/02/22/3rd-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 4th 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/09/30/4th-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

TwitterFollow my once daily “Relationship Tweets” at: http://Twitter.com/LarryJames – Enjoy!

If you are at war with others you cannot be at peace with yourself. You CAN let go & forgive! It takes no strength to let go, only courage.

It’s scary when we begin to understand that we are the source of our own misery. Some people never reach that level of understanding.

Date your mate! Plan in advance. Preparation is the key. Focus on having fun. Committed love partners know it is wise to plan time together.

When we disagree our relationship can often become temporarily out of order. Arguments can bring anger to the boiling point. Cool down.

Good fortune favors those who actively work together to create a sense of shared responsibility for the success of their relationship.

We often get so busy working on trying to fix our love partner (not possible) we forget that we are responsible for only fixing ourselves.

Listen with acceptance and understanding. Conversation occurs when someone is speaking & someone else is listening. Be a good listener.

True love allows for disagreements. Acknowledging when you are wrong is not a sign of weakness; it is a sign of strength. Be strong!

Anger must be expressed with an attitude of acknowledgment for the responsibility you may have for your equal share of the upset.

Learning to express yourself aloud is one thing. The feelings behind how you express these words are what count. Silence is not golden.

Cherish your differences. They are there for a purpose. Learn from them by learning to freely discuss them. Withhold your disapproval.

When you resolve conflict by conversation it offers a chance for healing & promotes the opportunity to become closer to the one you love.

Insecurities bring forth jealousy, which, is a cry for more love. Jealousy is the surest way to drive away the person you may fear losing.

When love is present in your relationship it is easier to say what you need to say. Your partner must feel the love behind the words.

There is comfort in solitude. Partners must learn to cherish their separateness while being together. It’s okay to have time to yourself.

When your lover needs space, allow it. To pursue or punish them when this happens will continue to interrupt the intimacy you both desire.

Being an attentive listener often offers an opportunity for healing and suggests a deeper level of love than simply saying, “I love you!”

Your subconscious mind believes every word you say. Your words and thoughts govern how your world and your relationships will be.

Think twice before you speak. Angry words, once spoken, reverberate like bells in a cathedral steeple. Remember, you can’t un-ring a bell.

A healthy love relationship allows two people to fully know each other and still love each other. Full disclosure. What’s on YOUR mind?

Indifference is like water to a fire. The flame of love grows dim with indifference to your love partner’s needs. Needs is high on the list!

The healthy release of anger must be presented in a way that empowers the relationship; anger expressed without blame, no pointing fingers.

Arguments create negative distance. Life is too short to maintain negative distance between love partners for lengthy periods of time.

It is a challenge for women when suddenly their man shuts down & ceases to communicate. This seldom works for the good of the relationship.

Men: Carefully chosen words, spoken aloud, are the only way a woman knows what is in your heart. Choose them carefully; speak them lovingly.

We must move through conflict as quickly as we can. Restoration is a process that takes time. Be patient & give up being right!

Your own personal growth contributes to the deepening and strengthening of the relationship you have with another. Work mostly on you.

All there is, is relationships. Building a successful relationship is a never-ending process. Do it with intention & pay attention to it!

Maturity is the ability to live up to the responsibilities of a love relationship, & this means being dependable & keeping your word.

We must plan to have fun together. Playing & having fun isn’t so much what we do. It’s how we feel about who we are with & what we do.

When relationships are fun they are easier to be appreciated. It takes steady work & a skillful specific intention to have them be that way.

You cannot change someone else. It simply is not possible. Give it up. Love them & work on you. Never stop working on you. Be YOUR best!

My happiness depends on me, so you are totally off the hook! Remember happiness is a choice. Your choice. No one else’s. Choice wisely.

Intimacy, the most profound of interpersonal human pleasures, grows most favorably in an atmosphere of peace and love.

Only one response to conflict opens the door to intimacy; an intent to learn from the experience. We often get so busy working on trying to fix our love partner that we forget that we are responsible for only fixing ourselves.

One of the secrets for a healthy love relationship is to never take more than you give.

Affirmation – When I am hurting, I ask my lover for a hug. There is Divine healing in a silent, close embrace.

You do not stumble on a great relationship by accident. You experience it on purpose. A great relationship is developed intentionally.

When your lover needs space. . . allow it. When he/she pulls away. . . let him/her go. Never chase them. Not to worry, they will be back.

Making love is a Divine idea! Intimacy is the only path to passion. Not sharing intimately negates the opportunity to grow together.

To have found someone you can share your love & life with is one of life’s greatest treasures & most exciting adventures. Celebrate Love!

Put aside any hesitancy to display affection at times other than when you want something. A kiss, a gentle hug or whisper words of love.

Promise to always openly communicate affection, love and commitment. It gives your future together more of a chance.

The miracle of unconditional love is nurtured by the power of the Divine and our own imagination. Imagine the possibilities!

A kiss has been described as the height of voluptuousness. It has a lovely, luscious and lusty legacy. Kissing is an act of quiet.

Love is embracing differences & discovering ways in which to build a common lifestyle, share decision-making, and take equal responsibility.

Ask yourself: “Would I want to be in a relationship with me?” “Am I someone who I would want to be with forever?” Answer honestly.

A forever love relationship requires devotion, loyalty and a mature ability to commit. Celebrate your love openly and honestly.

We are strongest when we let go of what doesn’t work. When we open our mind to behave in a different way, we create the freedom to love.

Commitment is a deep trust, a devotion discovered in the choice to be together. Commitment needs no agreements. It is based on desire.

The miracle of unconditional love is nurtured by the power of the Divine and our own imagination. Imagine the possibilities!

Feelings are always very real for the one who feels them. When your lover expresses feelings, validate them, even if you disagree.

What you focus on expands & eventually shows up. Think about & focus on what you want. What you think about & speak about, you bring about!

NEVER stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place. There is danger in becoming complacent with your relationship.

The mature person refuses to settle for mediocrity in their relationship. They would rather aim high & miss the mark than aim low & hit it.

Maturity is the ability to harness your abilities & your energies & to do more than is expected in your relationships. Doing your best?

Never go to bed angry. Settle every argument before going to sleep if possible. Stay up late if necessary. Get things settled quickly.

Choose to be in a relationship where the romance continues; where both partners continue to do things that you both consider romantic.

Manage your relationship in a way that has both of you have fun in it. Having fun together must be one of your highest priorities.

One of the secrets to a healthy love relationship is to never take more than you give. It is wise to learn to give without expectations.

You are the architect of your own discomfort. The secret is to never wallow in the suffering any longer than necessary. Think differently!

Disagreements are a signal that your love partner needs care & understanding. Learn to listen without becoming defensive. It’s never easy!

The only thing that makes the difference in the way you feel right now is the thought that you are thinking right now. Think about it!

We often get so busy working on trying to fix our love partner that we forget that we are responsible for only fixing ourselves. Get busy!

Intimacy, the most profound of interpersonal human pleasures, grows most favorably in an atmosphere of peace and love.

You never have time to do the things “you do not want to do.” Remember that the next time you get bogged down in unnecessary activities.

Trials and tribulations are to make, not break us. Accept them as opportunities to look for solutions together and to grow as a couple.

Relationship problems do not go away. They must be worked through or they remain, forever a barrier to your love, growth & development.

Trust introduces you to a new freedom – the freedom to think and feel and really be with the one you love. Trust opens many doors.

Nothing stands between you and anything that you desire other than your own patterns of thought. Change your thinking then your behavior.

Mature love partners permit each other the freedom to pursue their individual interests and friends without restriction. It’s called trust.

Let’s inspire one another, share our hugs, smiles, forgiveness & compassion & let the world know that love is indeed possible & present.

Healthy, committed love partners will say, “I’m sorry. I was wrong,” and mean it, rather than hold on to being right or walking away.

True acceptance of each other’s individuality & separateness is the only foundation upon which a mature, healthy relationship can be.

Relationship problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain. Trials and tribulations are to make, not break us.

Affirmation – I listen when my lover shares, without making judgments. My heart is always open to hear what my love partner has to say.

We become empowered by anger when we view it as something that brings to our awareness those parts of us that need healing.

Affirmation – When I am hurting, I ask my lover for a hug. There is Divine healing in a silent, close embrace.

You are where you are and what you are because of your choices and decisions in life to this very moment. Choice is your greatest power.

Everything you do is a choice based on your dominant values at the moment. Even taking no action is a choice.

The energy for change is inspired by the emotional honesty we express through our feelings. Our feelings often become the catalyst for re-inventing ourselves.

Our feelings help us to discover ourselves. Heed their call. They provide clues and insights into who we are.

Indifference is like water to a fire. The flame of love grows dim with indifference to your love partner’s needs.

Caring, safety, and trust allow two people to fully know each other and still love each other.

Heart-to-heart communication requires an emotional atmosphere of caring, safety, and trust.

Intimate lovers don’t have to say words to be understood. A knowing glance or touch can say all that needs to be said to ignite passion.

You can more lovingly express how you think and feel when trust is present in your relationship. You will also feel more free to do so.

Trust demands no withholds. It invites personal disclosure. That is scary for most. Allow your lover to see the real you. Be your true self.

We create the freedom to love. To open our hearts to love is perhaps the greatest gift we can give to ourselves.

We are strongest when we are letting go of what doesn’t work – when we open our mind to behave in a different way.

Commitment is a deep trust, a devotion discovered in the choice to be together. It is based on desire, not obligation.

To achieve the kind of relationship you would like and have never had before you must become someone you have never been before!

Talking about things that are important to the two of you can be almost as much fun and as productive as foreplay. Communication is good!

Starting over is the key to a new you. Embrace the beauty and significance of beginning again. Right now is the only reality. This is it!

The healthy release of anger must be presented in a way that empowers the relationship; anger expressed without blame, no pointing fingers.

Make a mutual commitment to no withholds, another of the keys to success in a healthy love relationship. Talk about anything & everything.

Spend time working on you. You are #1. Work on developing your own self as an individual. The one you are with is you! Reinvent yourself.

It is impossible to start new & to make clear, healthy, life- giving choices until we have let go of past hurts, confusion and resentments.

You can read the 2nd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2009/11/07/2nd-100-tweets-from-larry-james-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 3rd 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/02/22/3rd-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

You can read the 4th 100 Tweets at: https://celebratelove.wordpress.com/2010/09/30/4th-100-tweets-from-larry-james%E2%80%99-relationship-twitter/

Follow my once daily “Relationship Tweets” at: http://Twitter.com/LarryJames

Your comments are always welcome!

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Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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NOTE: You are welcome to use any of the above “Tweets” as quotes as long as you give credit. Example:

LoveNote. . . Good fortune favors those who actively work together to create a sense of shared responsibility for the success of their relationship. – Larry James, from the book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

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