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Monday, July 20, 2009

Thought for Today!

Filed under: Communication,For Men Only,Thought for Today! — Larry James @ 12:01 am
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LoveNote. . . For Men Only – When your lover is hurting and tells you so, this is not a request for “Mr. Fix-it.”

Withhold your opinions. suggestions, and advice unless you are asked to express them. Advice that is not requested is of no value whatsoever!

Please. . . keep your mouth shut and just listen.

First, she is not broken.

Second, always remember, someone who is hurting only needs your love, support and understanding. A warm and tender hug might help.

Whisper that you understand and in your best way, let her know she is loved.

It is possible to care without being a caretaker.

We want our love partner to be happy. We want them to grow. We are very clear that it is not our responsibility to make sure this happens. We care. We are not obsessive and controlling about our caring. We let go of our attachment to the idea that we can make it happen for them. We let go of always trying to manipulate our way into taking over their problems, desires, needs and choices. We allow them to exercise responsible choices and be personally responsible for the consequences.

You can care without being a caretaker.

Your comments are always welcome!

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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