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Sunday, October 5, 2008

Thought for Today!

Filed under: Relationships,Thought for Today! — Larry James @ 12:02 am

LoveNote. . . When you are in a relationship with someone and both of you are angry, chaos abounds. Two broken people can’t fix each other! They can only work on the problem. “What is the problem,” you ask? The answer is looking back at you in the mirror. Recovery comes from ceasing to be one of the problems. – Larry James

Copyright © 2008 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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  1. Cassandra – Thank you for your comment.

    I didn’t say that you can find the solution by viewing yourself AS the problem. I said, “The answer is looking back at you in the mirror. Recovery comes from ceasing to be ONE of the problems.”

    Whenever there are problems in a relationship it is rarely ever only one person’s fault. Problems in relationships are “shared” problems. Part of the solution is taking responsibility for your share of the problem.

    And. . . you are right, sometimes the pieces do not fit. Sometime couples are drawn together to help teach each other lessons and when the lessons are learned. . . it’s time to move on.

    Larry James

    Comment by Larry James — Tuesday, October 7, 2008 @ 11:34 pm | Reply

  2. Interesting answer in terms of what the problem is. . . I can’t say that I completely agree. Sometimes a relationship appears broken because it is. The two pieces just don’t fit. When you say that I can find the solution by viewing myself as the problem, you encourage people to make things work no matter that walking away may be the best solution.

    Comment by Cassandra — Tuesday, October 7, 2008 @ 4:49 pm | Reply

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