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Friday, September 5, 2008

For Singles Only

Filed under: For Singles Only,Relationships — Larry James @ 6:06 pm

You must learn to be alone and happy before you can be together with someone else and be happy. Your happiness only and always depends upon how you feel when you are alone, never how you think you will feel when you are with someone else.

Healthy love relationships require that you be strong enough to resist rushing to your next relationship before all the hurts of the past are healed. Healing takes time. Doing healing alone or with the assistance of a skilled professional, will always get you where you want to go much quicker.

Be alone in the short term for the extraordinary long term benefits. Learn what it takes to be in a healthy relationship with yourself. When you get comfortable with being alone; when the feeling that you must be in a relationship to feel complete disappears, most likely you will be ready for another relationship.

The path to a healthy love relationship becomes more clear when you put your own well being ahead of having to be in a relationship to feel good about yourself.

Copyright © 2008 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Author Larry James presents seminars nationally for singles and couples. Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact:, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. –

Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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  1. Back ‘in the day,’ we used the expression ‘vibes,’ a feeling you give off without being consciously aware of it. It seems to us that when you’re really ready for a relationship, you give off vibes that attract that relationship to you. Problem is, like your heartbeat, it may be rather difficult to control. It just has to come from within. And corny though this may sound, we suspect it’s source is a heart content with itself.

    Comment by bobandkaye — Sunday, September 7, 2008 @ 5:53 pm | Reply

  2. oh, it is a year since you updated!


    Not sure why you would say that. Check out the archives to see that there have been many posts added. – Larry James

    Comment by zannie — Sunday, September 7, 2008 @ 12:20 am | Reply

  3. Hi. This is very helpful in what i am currently experiencing now

    Comment by ms. pinkgirl — Saturday, September 6, 2008 @ 9:56 pm | Reply

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