Many couples get together, get married, and hope things work out and if they don’t, they move on. A relationship with that kind of false hope is most likely doomed from the beginning.
Marriage is supposed to be a sacred contract for a lifetime commitment. It is not some kind of social contract or something you just “do” for as long as you both shall “love.” To me, that statement reeks of no commitment. However for many couples that seems to be the expectation.
“You make a decision to be with someone with your mind. You make a commitment with your heart.” ~ Larry James
Marriage is not an experiment, littered with prenuptial agreements; gushy platitudes and an attitude of “Try me! If it doesn’t work, you can always bail out!” Your vows must mean something for your relationship to prosper. This kind of commitment demands discipline and perseverance. Marriage is tough work – it does not “just happen.”
So. . . is it “for as long as you both shall love” or “for as long as you both shall live?”
Think about this: If we truly believe it is “for as long as you both shall live,” then perhaps we might choose our love partners differently!
We must live our lives with our love partners as if we are inventing a great love story.
Copyright © 2007 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.
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