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Saturday, April 30, 2005

Kidding Around With Romance

Filed under: Having FUN,Romance,Romantic Tips! — Larry James @ 1:06 am

Youthful and playful activities can add spark to your relationship. Being playful in adult relationships is a good thing. It’s perfect for a first date and can even help light a fire under long-term couples whose affections have cooled.

Being playful isn’t something logical. It’s being the little kid in a big body, having fun, being happy and enjoying each other without concern about whether what you’re doing is proper.

“It is a happy talent to know how to play!” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

It’s doing things with a sparkle in our eyes and with a laughing face. It’s being a free-soul, with a sense of humor and in action with one another.

playIt’s having an “I can hardly wait” attitude and taking a break from the fixed framework of your everyday life; it’s celebrating distraction.

It’s having the self-confidence to be or do something without the concern of what others might think. It’s being okay with looking dumb, acting silly or stupid in a childlike way.

Bankrupt in the playful department? Spend an afternoon watching children play. It’s childlike frolicking and drawing gleefully outside the lines.

It’s being sponteneous with a childlike curiosity. Being playful is to be more candid, intimate, and outrageous. Being playful is being full of high-spirited fun: frisky, frolicsome, impish, mischievous. It’s letting your playful spirit come out and play.

If they’re not OK with you being who you are, that might be a clue as to whether you have a second date. Is that a great time saver or what?

You can also schedule a “PlayDate!” where you only play and focus on fun; no coversation about issues. Being playful is a great icebreaker, especially if sharing childhood memories – or favorite foods, worst nightmares, most embarrassing moments – is involved. Such honest revelations sometimes help determine if this is someone with whom you’d enjoy spending more time or you can learn more about the partner you’re with.

Select a special day each week to compliment your mate. Be sure the compliment is personal and handmade; send an e-mail, a card or love poster, or a handwritten sweet note.

Take crayons to a family-friendly restaurant and draw pictures or write notes to each other on the placemats. Go to a Kids Cartoon Movie together.

Go out for ice cream, a movie, a concert or just take a walk. Attend church together. Play Frisbee in a park. Visit a local high school football game on the spur of the moment. Make it a weekly activity for you and your love partner to share throughout the year.

Slide down the hill on a large, flattened cardboard box or, in the summer, on a large block of ice. Go bicycling together. Have a food fight.

Jump rope. Read a Dr. Suess book together. Get down on the floor and spend an evening together playing children’s games or playing with children’s toys.

Go out and buy a music CD together. When you return home, turn on the music, sit on the back porch and enjoy hot cider or a cold crink and each other’s company.

Plan a picnic on a playground for children and play on the swings. Enjoy the feeling of flying through the breeze. Play on the slide or in the sand box.

Blindfold your date, drive him to an ice cream parlor and make him guess the flavor of as many samples as they’ll let you try.

Visit a candy store. Suck on a lollipop. Sit under a tree and watch the squirrels. Recall a childhood memory or activity and engage your partner in reliving it.

Date your mate! Focus on having fun. Committed love partners know it is wise to plan their time together. Go on a date. Talk about it. Plan it in advance. Don’t wait until the last moment. Take turns planning these events. Lovers show their consideration for each other this way. To do otherwise is to take your togetherness for granted.

It’s never too late to begin a new, playful tradition. Being playful is a good thing!

Larry’s NOTE: A special “thank you” to Janie Magruder, The Arizona Republic for the inspiration for this article.

Copyright © 2007 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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