Unfortunately, good times are often poor teachers because relationship success often breeds complacency.
Great success often paves the way to illusions of omnipotence and self-importance. That’s the time when love partners who once celebrated a caring, attention-giving and creative relationship begin to suffer from poor judgement.
Never fear relationship problems or avoid them thinking they will go away. They won’t. Problems are to make us, not break us.
The smart partner practices preventative maintenance. They learn new lessons for relationship success. They bring excellence to the relationship. They are always seeking new ways to make their partner feel special. If it isn’t obvious by now, they place a high priority on the relationship.
Your relationship has two teachers; one spoils you when things are going great; the other speaks to you when things go wrong.
You are both teachers.
This is an awesome responsibility, I might add. Knowing this carries with it accountability. Responsibility without accountability doesn’t work. You cannot manage the terrain of relationships with your eyes closed.
Pay more attention to the ups and downs. Not doing so has a sobering affect on your partner and your relationship. Stretch yourself. Find new resources of relationship information. Begin now. If you wait for problems to go away, the relationship may disappear while you are waiting.
Discover new ways of being that support you, your partner and the relationship; ways that consistently inspire you to pay more attention to the “little things.” Be consistent and creative in your efforts to do whatever it takes to make your relationship great.
You don’t need someone to tell you something is missing from your relationship. You know. You can feel it. Remember. . . you are BOTH teachers. Perhaps they will teach you balance.
The choice is yours. Will you do something about it? That’s a good question to ponder while things are going well.
Copyright © 2005 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and an award winning nondenominational Wedding Officiant. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere. Something NEW about relationships is posted every 4th day on this Relationships BLOG.
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