LoveNote. . .

LoveNote. . . In healthy love relationships, there is no second place. There is no longer any need to have one of you be number one and one of you be number two. Healthy people share. In a healthy love relationship, generosity expresses itself generously. Love partners are not afraid to share the spotlight.

Give up the idea of having to have any one of the two people who make up a relationship be subservient. When two people really love each other, they are not afraid to be their love partner’s equal.

Two people, each number one to each other and to the relationship, working together on similar things and accepting mutual responsibility when things are good and also when things are not so good, can only empower the relationship.

You give of yourself to the other. You never give up yourself to the other. When you are both number one, no one ever has to worry about competition in the relationship. When two people work together, they can always accomplish more. – Larry James

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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All LoveNotes are from my book, “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing.”

Thought for Today!

LoveNote. . . We get pretty much what we expect to get in our relationship. What we expect to get is what we focus on. If it turns out good, we should not be disappointed. If it turns out bad, we should not be disappointed. We got what we expected. What else did we expect to get?

Perhaps we should learn to be in a relationship with no expectations. In a spirit of unity, only and always work together, all the time, to create the best relationship we can. All the time. With intention. In a spirit of unity. All the time.

If we could do that, maybe we wouldn’t have to be concerned about expectations when they surface; we would know things were always going to be as good as the people working on them. Perhaps that is why it is important to have a great relationship with ourselves. When we can do a great relationship with ourselves, we can do a great relationship with two people.

When we reach that place, we can have a great relationship with someone else because we already know how to be in a great relationship. . . with ourselves!

Your comments are always welcome!

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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Thought for Today!

Intentionally add a little pizzazz to your love relationship every day. Do it in playful ways.

Exercise your sense of humor. It enlivens your spirit, breeds happiness and causes you and the one you love to experience fully the love you feel for one another.

Remember when you were first together. Oh, what fun! Do more of that. Never stop doing the things that brought you together in the first place.

Do things that make each other smile. Smiles and knowing nods from your lover create a sense of unity that adds longevity to your relationship.

It’s never too late to begin a new, playful tradition. Being playful and having fun in your relationship is a good thing!

For more on this subject, read:

Kidding Around With Romance
The ABC’s of Celebrating Love!

Your comments are always welcome!

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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Thought for Today!

LoveNote. . . For Men Only – When your lover is hurting and tells you so, this is not a request for “Mr. Fix-it.”

Withhold your opinions. suggestions, and advice unless you are asked to express them. Advice that is not requested is of no value whatsoever! Please. . . keep your mouth shut and just listen.

First, she is not broken.

Second, always remember, someone who is hurting only needs your love, support and understanding. A warm and tender hug might help.

Whisper that you understand and in your best way, let her know she is loved.

It is possible to care without being a caretaker.

We want our love partner to be happy. We want them to grow. We are very clear that it is not our responsibility to make sure this happens. We care. We are not obsessive and controlling about our caring. We let go of our attachment to the idea that we can make it happen for them. We let go of always trying to manipulate our way into taking over their problems, desires, needs and choices. We allow them to exercise responsible choices and be personally responsible for the consequences.

You can care without being a caretaker.

Your comments are always welcome!

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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Thought for Today!

“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.” ~ Elizabeth Kubler Ross

Your comments are always welcome!

Copyright © 2009 – Elizabeth Kubler Ross. Check out Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a nondenominational minister and performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

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Thought for Today!

LoveNote. . . For Women Only – Be patient with your love partner when it comes to listening. Help him learn to listen by saying things worth listening to. In time he will learn how to share how he feels, openly and in a way that allows him to be vulnerable without fear. When this happens, initiate conversation that shows your appreciation of his new way of being. Patience and understanding are necessary. – Larry James

Your comments are always welcome!

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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Thought for Today!

LoveNote. . . Be challenged by engaging in meaningful conversation.

Talk about things that are important to your relationship. Don’t leave anything out. Develop a relationship that creates the freedom to talk about what needs to be said, without arguments. . . only conversations.

It’s not easy. It takes giving your love partner the freedom to speak what is in his or her heart. It takes knowing that what they speak about is only their opinion, they have a right to it and are responsible for it.

The challenge is to be okay with that. – Larry James

Your comments are always welcome!

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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Thought for Today!

LoveNote. . . A healthy love relationship is a safe place where two lovers can be themselves. No more pretending. It’s almost as if both spirits merge. It’s about experiencing the freedom to be real and about feeling okay about ourselves and the relationship.

No more judgments or preconceived notions of how it ’should’ be. It’s about each giving consent to be loved and appreciated for who they are and loving each other for having the courage to be that way. – Larry James

Your comments are always welcome!

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

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Thought for today!

LoveNote. . . You do not stumble on a great relationship by accident. You experience it on purpose. It doesn’t just happen. A great relationship is developed intentionally.

It is created by mutual commitment and by nurturing it with loving thoughts, open communication, the attention given to it, intentional activity and a mutual decision for constructive action.

It becomes whatever two love partners decide it to be. It is the result of two dancing hearts being in step with one another; dancing to the same rhythm; connected; communicating words of love in a dance of togetherness. – Larry James

Your comments are always welcome!

Copyright © 2009 – Larry James. This idea is adapted from Larry’s books, “How to Really Love the One You’re With: Affirmative Guidelines for a Healthy Love Relationship,” “LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing” and “Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.” Larry James is a professional speaker, author, relationship coach and a nondenominational minister. He performs the most “Romantic” wedding ceremony you will find anywhere.

Subscribe to Larry’s FREE monthly “LoveNotes for Lovers” eZINE. Contact: CelebrateLove.com, P.O. Box 12695, Scottsdale, AZ 85267-2695. – CelebrateLove.com and CelebrateIntimateWeddings.com

NOTE: All articles and “LoveNotes” listed in this BLOG are available for reprint in magazines, periodicals, newsletters, newspapers, eZINEs, on the Internet or on your own Website. Click here for details.