Is your relationship on thin ice? Learning more about how to make relationships work might be a good idea!
A good way to do that is attending relationship seminars and reading good relationship books. Doing so may may prevent your relationship from crashing and burning. A serious relationship takes major work and commitment.
Love is never enough. It takes working together and doing the things of healthy relationships. You can have all the love you want, but if you don’t have respect, trust and communication, you don’t have anything.
Perhaps a crash-course might be the answer. Books only work if you learn from them and then do the work! It’s best not to wait until it’s too late.
If you are feeling a disconnect from your partner, that’s when you need to take action. Here is what often happens. One partner is not happy with the way things are going in the relationship but fails to communicate those feelings to their partner and does nothing. The partner doesn’t have a clue but the other partner begins to seriously think that maybe this isn’t working out. Six months or more later, the partner who failed to communicate expresses a desire to leave and the other partner is shocked. However the other partner has had a six month head start to think, plan and decide to leave. This scenario is common. I have heard it numerous times in my coaching sessions. That’s what I mean when I say don’t wait until it’s too late.
It’s time to wake up. . . NOW. . . not break up! Don’t let your relationship fizzle.
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Call for a “time out” rather than distancing or withdrawing from the relationship. Design an agreement that puts a time-limit of the time out with a promise to come back after a brief break – 20 to 30 minutes max – to talk about it. That is an important step. Next, make sure to talk calmly and listen to each other so you can try not to let it happen again.
For making up to be a fun time, you have to become vulnerable – let your hair down (so to speak) – and allow each other to enjoy each other again. Let go of any resentments you may have about the disagreement that got you to this point and get on with your relationship. Here are a few ideas.
Sex is an important aspect of every marriage. Having sex is a lot easier than talking about it. Most everyone will agree about that, however in order to for you to share what turns you on with your partner, you MUST communicate your likes and dislikes in a playful and healthy way. Someone has to break the ice. 
Obviously there’s a lot to talk about, but if possible start the discussion at a time when you are both feeling close. If you want to discuss some unresolved aspect of your sexual relationship or a disappointment or frustration, during sex is not a good time for the discussion. Bedtime is not a good time either. Find a time when you’re feeling happy, loose and confident. Think twice before you decide to hold back your sexual frustrations from your partner. Bottling up emotions around sex leads to severe depression, anxiety and often infidelity. Notice the small things that often leads to intimacy. 
If your bedroom antics are stalled at the pass. . . be brave – start talking. It may save your relationship. Be open about what turns you on and off. Be clear about what you want. Never settle for “ho hum” sex. Have your time together be a “do more of this” conversation punctuated with a lot of words like, “I love it when you do… and I’d like us to also do…” 
Plan for It
Do Some Dreaming
When we push a cork down into water in a tumbler, the cork by itself rises and comes to the surface as soon as we release it. To keep it beneath the surface of water, there has to be a downward force by something or someone. Never allow anyone or anything to hold your cork under water. Allowing others to hold that kind of control over you keeps you in a very unhealthy state of mind.
Let your Vibrational Escrow percolate, and you do your best to give it your undivided attention so that you become a Vibrational Match to it. And then, when the Law of Attraction brings all of it together and brings you, because you’re a match, together with it – then there aren’t any bugs to work out. Don’t ask the person, or people, that helped you to define what you want to become what you want so that you can have what you want. (Oh, that was so good.) Instead, let them be the Step One part of it (the asking part). Use your willpower and your decision to focus upon what you want – and then the Universe will bring you what you want. ~ Abraham
What you think about and speak about, you bring about. Want more of the problem? Keep thinking about it instead of seeking mutually beneficial solutions to it and refuse to change “YOUR” behavior. Rather than looking outside for the source of your problems, look inside for the source of your solutions.
Write a script that will have you operating at peak performance. If you don’t feel good about how your movie is progressing then maybe you need to stop and rewrite a script that will eliminate all negative possibilities. 
Make your life’s movie one you will be proud to show your audience. Make it one that when the people of the world have seen it, the world will be a better place. Give an Academy Award performance. You deserve it.
2. I love being with you. Don’t assume that she knows this, just because you’re together so much. She needs to know that you are with her because you enjoy being with her, and that it isn’t just habit or a feeling of obligation.
