5 Tips For Women on Communicating with Men

1. Speak about solutions, not problems. When presenting a proposal or plan of action, talk less about the problem and more about what you think should be done.

2. Be direct when you make a request. Don’t talk about a problem and wait for him to offer his support. Often men feel manipulated when women are not direct. It is as if he “should do it” without her having to ask.

3. Give him more space when he moans or groans. Don’t give him a pat on the back. Avoid doing anything that demonstrates a feeling of motherly empathy.

4. Get to the point when making a suggestion. Avoid talking too much about problems. Remember, men hear sharing as complaining.

5. Only complain when you have a solution to suggest. Take less time to explain the problem and quickly move on to suggest a solution.

Copyright © 2008 - John Gray. These tips are from John Gray, Ph.D. He is the best-selling relationship author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. Dr. Gray offers a practical guide for improving communication and getting results.